1. Borrow a Ring

This tried-and-true method is one of the most reliable ways to determine their ring size. Pay attention to which rings your partner wears on their left ring finger. When they’re not around, carefully borrow the ring and:

• Trace the inner circumference onto a piece of paper

• Use a printable ring sizer to measure the borrowed ring

A jeweler can then use this reference to determine the exact size.

2. Ask Friends or Family for Help

Close friends or family members might already know your partner’s ring size or can casually find out. Parents, siblings, or best friends can bring up the topic naturally without raising suspicion. Just be sure to enlist only those who can keep a secret!

3. Gift a Ring for Another Occasion

Planning ahead? Buy a ring for a different occasion, like a birthday or anniversary. You can:

• Ask for their ring size while choosing the gift

• Take them jewelry shopping and have them try on rings under the guise of looking for other jewellery pieces

This not only helps you get their size but also gives insight into their style preferences.

4. Team Up with an Engaged Friend

If you have a friend who’s recently engaged, ask them to let your partner try on their engagement ring. This can give you:

• A general size estimate

• A chance to see if they mention their ring size

• Clues about their preferred style

It’s a natural and subtle way to gather information!

5. Consider a Temporary Setting

Worried about getting the size wrong? Opt for a temporary setting. Some jewelers allow you to propose with a simple setting, then return it later to exchange for the perfect size and design. This removes sizing anxiety while still making the proposal special.